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Month 1 Meltdowns? 5 Ways to Nurture a Positive Attitude in the New School Year

The first few months of a new school year can be tough for kids at just about any age. And when the kids are having a difficult time, parents are usually struggling too. Here’s a few ideas to help make sure they’re making a successful transition into the new year.

1. Support Their Teacher

Share your child’s favorite activities, the name they prefer to be called and if they have a sibling or close friend in the same school. Teachers are pulled in 100 directions at once, so it can seem like they may not be able to do much to individually support your child. But, they care!

If they have this info about your child in the back of their head, they’ll be more likely to introduce a game they like or have the sibling come by for a visit when your child’s having a rough day.

2. Avoid Being Late Early in the Year

Nobody likes to be last to the party, the same goes for school.

Even if it seems impossible when that alarm first goes off, it’s important that kids get to school on time. It’s much easier to feel overwhelmed and uncomfortable if they’re one of the last to arrive. Showing up early or on time helps them transition naturally into their day, and keeps you on schedule too. Even if you haven’t been able to stick to that schedule through the first month or so of school, it’s still worth a try now!

3. Keep Goodbyes Brief and Upbeat 

You’re going to be saying goodbye to your kids just about every day. This can be tough for your little one to get used to, but it’s important to normalize the process and not make a big deal out of goodbyes. This will keep everyone on schedule, and serves as a reminder that you will see each other again soon.

One idea is to create a fun goodbye tradition, like a secret handshake or a short dance. Ask your child for ideas and come up with one you can do together each day!

4. Have Productive After-School Conversation 

All kids are used to the typical “How was school today?” So used to it, in fact, that they don’t usually respond with more than a single word. Try asking more dynamic questions to get a better response. Questions will vary based on the age of your child, but some good starting points are:

  • Will you tell/show me something you learned today?

  • What was the highlight of your day?

  • Did any of your friends do something that made you laugh?

  • What do you think about Math? That used to be my favorite!

5. Get A Routine Going 

Set consistent routines for sleep and homework – that way expectations are set and kids are well-rested, alert, and prepared for class. This can help reduce overall anxiety and help them focus more on what they’re learning and on building strong relationships with their peers and teachers.


Jordan Rosenbaum